FEEDBACK WATCH OUT!!!

HELLO I HAVE BEEN A MEMBER SINCE 2002, I HAVE AT THIS TIME CLOSE TO 200 FEEDBACK REPLIES. ALL 100% POSITIVE. I HAVE BEEN VERY CAREFULL NOT TO LEAVE NEUTRAL OR NEG. FEEDBACK IN THE PAST AS I WAS AFRAID TO GET IT BACK FROM SELLERS .. LATELY A FEW OF THE SELLERS HAVE BEEN HOLDING FEEDBACK INTILL YOU SEND THERE FEEDBACK TO THEM. ( I CALL THIS RANSOM FEEDBACK!! ) LATELY I HAVE BEEN GETTING TIRED OF SOME OF THE SELLERS NOT SHIPPING FOR 3-4 WEEKS WHEN THERE ITEM SAYS SHIPS IN 24 HRS OR IN ONE OF MY CASES THE ITEM NEVER ARIVED AND I SEND SEVERAL EMAILS WITH NO RESPONSE.. SO I LEAVE NUETRAL OR NEG. FEEDBACK... AND WHAT DO I GET, YOU GOT IT ...NEG. FEEDBACK FROM THE SELLER. I USE BUY IT NOW QUITE A BIT, I MAKE THE PAYMENT 2-5 MIN. AFTER HITTING BUY IT NOW. PAYPAL PAYMENT IS MADE. AT THIS POINT THE BUYER IS DONE WITH THE EXCEPTION OF EMAILS FOR CONFIRMATION OF PAYMENT/SALE AND A SHIPPING DATE. THIS IS WHEN A SELLER IN MY OPINION SHOULD LEAVE FEEDBACK. THE REST OF THE SALE IS THE SELLER SHIPPING THE ITEM .. PRETTY SIMPLE RIGHT? SO WATCH OUT !!! IF YOU LEAVE HONEST NEG. OR NEUTRALFEEDBACK YOU MAY GET NEG. FEEDBACK IN RETURN.. SO WHAT DO YOU DO??? I DON'T HAVE THAT ANSWER. IF I KEEP LEAVING HONEST FEEDBACK I AM GOING TO RUIN MY HARD EARNED POS. FEEDBACK SCORE..BUYERS BEWARE. THERE HAVE BEEN MANY SALES IN THE PAST WERE I HAVENOT GIVEN FEEDBACK WHEN IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN NEG. OR NEUTRAL AND THE SELLER HAS DONE THE SAME. THEN IT DOES NOT RUIN YOUR FEEDBACK SCORE. BUT IS THIS REALLY AND HONEST FEEDBACK RATING SYSTEM??? I AM SURE ALOT OF SELLERS OUT THERE HAVE THERE OWN STORIES TO TELL!! THIS IS JUST MY PAST FEEDBACK WOES.. THANK YOU.